Below is a letter a married man struggling with “not enoughness” sent to his wife recently, inspired by a video of mine.

Dear Cindy*,
There is something that has been weighing on my heart that I want to share with you.

I often find myself grappling with the feeling that I’m not enough for you.

Yes, it relates to our prior interactions and things you’ve said but it is also a personal struggle within myself. A sense of “not enoughness” that haunts me.

I want nothing more than to be the partner you deserve and need. I want to be the man who fulfills you.

But sometimes, I question my abilities and worry that I’m not meeting your standards, which brings about feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy.

The man in me is very challenged in writing this. I feel like I should be enough for you. And to admit otherwise feels quite vulnerable.

I want to be the best husband I can be and yet the fear of never measuring up lingers in my mind.

So I share this with you not to burden you with my struggles but to open up and let you in on my thoughts and feelings.

I ask you for your patience and understanding as I navigate through this emotional journey.

Your support means the world to me. Thanks for walking with me with all this.

I hope you can remain open to me. My love for you is strong.

Love,
Tim*

Tim saw my video below and was inspired to own what lived in him that he was projecting onto his wife.

Do you struggle with feeling like you’re not enough for your wife or partner?

If so, consider how you live in a closed psychological ecosystem of “you-ness” in your day-to-day life. And how in that space, you are limited in what you can see or do in your relationship.

Instead, I invite you to attain a clear understanding of the man you want to be in relationship.

In a dedicated, intentional space away from the familiar environs of home and family in a land of beauty and power – the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina – you and 11 other men will get clarity on how…

• You show up with your partner.
• You co-create what you’re currently living.
• To sharpen your insight and action to become the relationally-empowered man you want to be.

And yes, all that will happen, even if right now you don’t know who that man is.

Together, my staff and I will guide you into knowing and becoming that man.

We’ll help you understand what stops you from being him. And what you need to let go of in order to become him.

Be it the old scripts of “she’s too much” or “I can’t be enough for her” or whatever self-talk keeps you stuck in a version of relationship that you’re ready to leave behind.

If you’re hungry to start anew, get clarity, and transform your relationship, I extend this special invitation to you.

Join me this September for a deep dive, replete with comfortable accommodations, beautiful mountain views, and killer hot tubs, in the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains just outside Asheville, North Carolina.

The Confident Man’s Path In Relationship Retreat will transform how you approach your relationship.

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