“I love my wife. We have a great life. I want to make things work. “But…,” Ryan pauses and considers if he will reveal his secret. I nod my head, giving him the cue that it’s ok to speak. “I’m miserable,” he says, conflicted inside. Do you feel conflicted about the current state of your marriage? A part of Ryan […]
I’ve heard guys say that trying to improve your marriage can feel like an uphill climb. You often take two steps forward and one step back. The effort burns. Each step feels like a slog. You wonder, what’s it gonna take? Does being happy in your relationship feel like an uphill climb? Well, that’s how it works when you repeat the […]
There’s something in your relationship. Something you avoid talking about with your partner. Something under the surface. A stress. A fear. A sense of something not right. Something not out in the open. Do you feel that something with your partner? Maybe you bury it down. Or you kick it down the road. Maybe it’s a rock you fear looking under. Or […]
Tim was one of those ‘successful’ guys with the six figure income, the nice house, two sweet kids, the beautiful wife, and big yard. From the outside, you’d have no idea that inside that beautiful house, his beautiful wife was…well, not so beautiful. In truth, she was a bully. She consistently reprimanded and demeaned Tim. Are you in a relationship with an abusive woman? […]
Like many men I coach, Austin was struggling in his relationship. He’d lost his mojo, his way, his passion with his wife. After waking up next to her daily for 12 years, he said, “I feel like I’m in a cage. The thrill is gone. Is this really the rest of my life?” “What do you want? What do you […]
Fear. It’s a bear in relationship. It can weigh a man down. A lot. Fear of not being enough for her. Fear of letting her down. Fear of not making her happy. I’ve seen all kinds of fears from guys during years of coaching men in their relationships. And the biggest thing I teach guys is this… It’s not her that […]
There’s a secret a lot of guys won’t speak. To speak it goes against the guy code. And it’s this. “I can’t be weak.” And often a man doesn’t know he holds this belief until he hits rock bottom in his relationship. Until he actually feels weak. It’s only then that he realizes how much time and energy he put in to avoid a reality […]
Marriage is a sacrifice. I hear this often. Do you believe that? Before you answer, consider the definition of sacrifice. “An act of slaughtering an animal or person or surrendering a possession as an offering to God or to a divine or supernatural figure.” Ok, maybe you’re not actually slaughtering an animal, but… Are you slaughtering yourself for a divine ideal? Most […]
“She’s always coming at me with a charge. It’s like I have to take on her anger just to stay married to her.” James pauses and looks away for a moment. “Half of the time I’m not even sure what she’s angry about.” He throws his hands up in frustration. “The other day, she barked at me because I didn’t secure […]
Men often come to me exasperated. They’re working hard at their job, helping out at home, and with their kids. And then they hear their partner say, “I don’t feel like you’re on my team.” It often leaves a guy feeling blindsided. What? Not on your team? I’m busting my ass for you. Have you ever been told that you’re not on […]
