“My marriage is falling apart,” Robert says. He pauses and sighs. “I fear divorce. I’m at a loss with what to do.” As a super-successful options trader, Robert is unaccustomed to not having the answers. “We’ve been married for years and somewhere, I don’t know exactly when, she shut down on me.” Has your wife shut down on you? Robert’s […]
Your blind spot. The place that you can’t see between your rearview and sideview mirror. You check it when you can. But every once in a while, you get lazy. You go to make that lane change, without checking your blind spot… And then BAM! You smash into something. And you realize, it was that damn blind spot. What the […]
Ever been in a fight with your wife and thought, Jeez, we’ve been having the same argument for 15 years? You didn’t do A, B, or C so many years ago, she says, then you didn’t do it again last week. You’re careless and all you think about is yourself and you’ll never change. Do you wonder, how did we […]
Here’s a crazy phenomenon I see with many married men. Are you this guy? A man walks into his kitchen to get a snack after working in his office. His wife walks into the kitchen. And bam, out of nowhere, she starts coming at him. “Hey,” she says, “you said you’d take care of the appointment for the kids. I never got […]
Steve gets feedback from his wife – well, more like criticism. “‘You don’t contribute to the family. You’re not present for me. You’re on your phone too much,’ she says to me.” Steve sighs. Is your wife tough on you? A lot of guys hear these words, or similar, from their wife. Good guys, just like you and me. Men who […]
Social distancing? Or sexual distancing? For many couples, it’s been one in the same. You might be in the same physical space. But are you in the same relational or sexual space? Are you seeing one another? Working as a team? Helping one another get through this COVID madness all the better for it? If you are, you’re likely having more […]
Every day, we wake up and have the opportunity to tend to our kingdom. How are you tending to yours in these challenging times? Do you show up as the hero of your own story? Or the victim? When it’s the latter, do you even notice? Or do you unconsciously go down the rabbit hole of victim consciousness? Time out! No shame. Instead, […]
There’s one question that disarms couples in a moment of conflict. Prefer to watch me present live? The Conflict John and Susan zoom in to me on video chat from South Carolina. John’s a high level executive with a steel company. And while he spends a lot of time at work, he’s aging and well aware that his home life […]
Conflict in relationship – it sucks. You know how it goes. She says this. He says that. She gets angry. He gets pissed. Something hurtful is said somewhere along the way. Both of you are triggered and feel really unsafe. Two individuals, supposedly together, spin down separate rabbit holes. Thoughts fly off the handle. Do I have a future with […]
“There’s this thing,” a client says to me. Mark looks up to the heavens, as if he’ll find the word there. He’s 51. “It’s happening with me and Felicia. I’m not sure what to call it. It’s… a lining up of sorts. Love… and yet something else…” He looks up again. “It’s like she knows what I’m thinking. Not like […]
