The holidays can be a super-challenging time for a married guy or any man in relationship. His wife’s over-spending on excessive gifts. Trying to be “joyful” with her when you’re just not. The sense of obligation to be on your best behavior for the kids. It can all leave a guy dreading the holidays. Yet these are mere symptoms of […]
Eight years ago, I was 44 years old, married 17 years, with a 15-year-old son. I’d been through many death and life cycles in my marriage. I was about to go through another one. My wife and I were in the kitchen, talking about what we should get my son for Christmas. She asked for my opinion. I brought my […]
Shhh. I have a secret. It’s something nobody tells you about marriage. In fact, it’s something you should’ve known way before you even got married. It’s precisely because you don’t know this one thing that you may be in a marriage that drains you more than fulfills you. And it can put you in a position where you feel like […]
When I first got married, I was very much in love with my wife. I dreamed of our future. Wondered what our kids would look like. Thought about the life we’d create together. I sought a home in my prior wife at the time. A psychological, emotional, and sexual home. A place I could rest and relax and not deal […]
“My wife gets easily worked up about stuff,” says Robert, a software entrepreneur in his late forties. “And I feel like I have to take it on. I’m that guy, you know, who fixes it. “And to be honest, I’m tired of it. It seems like it never stops. Whether it’s about the kids, her work, my behavior. She’s freaking […]
“I’m gonna die here,” I thought, staring at the picture-perfect suburban yard. I washed dinner dishes at the sink in our family dream home, as I did most nights, trying to be a good guy, to support my wife who had chronic illness. I was that guy. Do you prioritize your wife’s well-being over your own happiness? I did. And […]
Imagine. Your marriage is on the rocks. You experience your wife as a bully or maybe she’s withdrawn and unwilling to work on your marriage. She puts you at the bottom of her list. Or maybe she’s sexually closed. You’ve hit rock bottom. You can’t go on like this. Think about your options. Ask yourself… Can I save my marriage? […]
This was me once. It might be you. Your wife treats you like a second-class citizen. She belittles you. She acts as if you have little to offer her or your family. Does your wife ever belittle you? In response, you try to show up as your best. You’re a good guy who wants to contribute. And yet your efforts […]
Richard, a sales executive, speaks to me across the screen from New York. He’s exasperated. “She’s always freaking out. I’m tired of it. She’s fucking crazy.” Do you ever think your wife is crazy? Richard did. “I just want things to be OK, fluid. Every little thing becomes a big deal with her. Yesterday she freaked on me because I […]
When a man’s marriage tanks, he asks himself questions like… Can I continue to live like this? How can things change? What can I do about it? And in this place, your options can feel limited. You can easily feel trapped and resigned. Are you living out a life sentence in your marriage? If you’ve ever felt this way, it’s […]
