One swings. One observes. One attacks. One dissolves. One chases. One sits. Who are you? The boxer or the meditator? Are you neither? Or are you both? The boxer steps into the ring. He faces a clear opponent. He protects and attacks. He dodges and jabs. All his powers are focused on self-preservation. He fights to win. The meditator sits […]
Hell no. Don’t listen. Hell yeah. You better listen. Which is it? We’ll get there but first, what happens inside of you when she says, “I need to talk”? For many men, it’s, Uh, oh, I’m in trouble, again? What did I do this time? How’s that possible? You never get it right? I often wondered during 20 years of […]
Are you the guy who feels nothing or feels everything? You know which side of the pendulum you swing to. You’ve been inside of you your entire life. So which is it? Stoic? Or Sensitive? Both have their costs and benefits – from the obvious to the not so obvious. The stoic guy has a wall around his heart. The sensitive […]
“I know, I know, I’m supposed to love myself,” a client says to me. “Find more self-love and self-trust. But in truth, I just want more than anything to find deep connection with a partner. All of me aches for it.” Can you relate? I hear this from some of my male clients. Felix pauses. He looks me over. His […]
Men, have you ever thought, if only she’d open to me, let me in, I’d be fine? That’s often our story. If we’re not getting it, we feel unloved. (This one’s for the men out there; women may enjoy it as well.) How might we reclaim that power we often give away? When sexual desire takes us over? When we […]
Losing love hurts. It can be an ache. A deep black hole, an emptiness, a burn. Love is something we seek and something we can project onto anyone. A passerby on the street or a colleague at work. While the words may not be exact, we may feel it as – If only she/he were in my life, I’d be […]
The tropical jungle, a mountain of green comes at me at 60 kilometers per hour. I hold the throttle firm on my scooter as I round the bend of a rural highway in Koh Lanta, Thailand. A woman concealed in black Muslim robes rippling in the wind behind her, speeds towards me on a motorcycle like a dark angel of […]
Palms pressed together, finger tips at his chin, a businessman in a blue suit bows on his knees at the bust of 13th century General Tran Hung Dao. Ngoc Son Temple on Jade Island in Hoan Kiem Lake, a mere 300 steps over the iconic Rising Sun bridge, provides a welcome respite from the bustling streets of Hanoi. Fruit, chung cake […]
A few days ago, a Vietnamese woman proposed to me. I was in a custom clothing shop in Hoi An, where it is common for foreigners to have custom suits made. My 19-year old son was getting fit for something. We have been travelling in Vietnam. As I waited for him, Mai, who worked in the shop sat down next […]
He had a beautiful night with his partner. They made love, connected. They slept, body against body. It was hard to leave her side. That morning, at work, the desire to call her was strong. To text her, to stay connected. He still felt her – touch, scent, and sensation. And it felt… so good. The ecstasy of connection was […]
