Twelve years ago, I was 44 years old, married 17 years, with a 15-year-old son. I’d been through many death and life cycles in my marriage. I was about to go through another one. My wife and I were in the kitchen, talking about what we should get my son for Christmas. She asked for my opinion. I brought my […]
“Happy wife, happy life.” “It’s your job to make her happy.” “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” No doubt you’ve heard one or all of these expressions. Maybe one of these voices lives in your head. How do you make your wife happy? Every month I talk to guys who approach their marriage as a “wife happy-making” endeavor. They […]
You feel it. Something’s changed between you and her. She’s distant. Cold. You have a nagging sense that your relationship is not sustainable. You wonder “How long can we keep doing this?” You replay moments. You look for signs. You’re afraid it’s over. But here’s the truth — your biggest problem isn’t her silence, aggravation, or other behaviors. It’s something […]
It’s late at night. You’re in the bedroom with your partner. You begin to share something about a challenge you’ve been having with her. You try to kindly express your point of view. You’ve even rehearsed it. But before you can even finish a few sentences, she interrupts. She talks over you as if your words don’t matter. Does your […]
You love your woman. You want to see her happy, light, and free. So when she tells you about her challenges… you do what seems logical. You jump in to fix it. “Here’s what you should do.” “Why don’t you just…” “Have you tried…?” But instead of being grateful, she seems… annoyed. Has this ever happened to you? When she […]
“I don’t put the dishes away. “I don’t spend enough time with the kids. “She doesn’t feel like I’m on her team. “It’s endless. Sometimes I wonder why she even stays married to me,” Jack says. Does your wife complain about you? “Why does she stay married to you? Have you asked her?” I say. Jack takes a deep breath. […]
Philip, a high-earning financial consultant, taps his fingers on the small table next to him. I wonder how long he’ll last in this session. His wife Tamara complains about how he is checked out. How he can’t even be with his family for 10 minutes without being on his phone. Mincing no words, she says, “I feel like I’m in […]
Disclaimer: crude content. The truth is in your cock. It’s in your balls. The evidence is in your body. You want to have more sex than your wife. Maybe she’s distant. She’s cold. She’s timid, closed off, or uninterested in sex. It feels like a slap in the face. A closed door to a critical part of you. You’re a […]
Freedom. It’s one of the greatest values we men cherish and hold. Be it the freedom to do what we want. Believe what we want. Or just live our lives as we please. And yet often at a young age, in our 20s or 30s, we do something that goes counter to maintaining our freedom. We get married. Yes, you […]
Every married guy has been here. What about you? Your wife asks you your opinion on something – the curtains, the placemats, or a school thing with your kid. So you give your opinion. I like the blue curtains. The red placemats look great. Sure, let’s get a tutor for Billy. And then she does what she wants, as if […]
