“She doesn’t love me anymore,” says my client Rick, a tech entrepreneur. “How do you know that?” I say. “We never have sex anymore,” he says Does lack of sex feel like lack of love to you as well? “Because she doesn’t have sex with you, you don’t feel loved?” I say. “Correct,” he says “Do you feel needy?” He […]
You feel it. Something’s changed between you and her. She’s distant. Cold. You have a nagging sense that your relationship is not sustainable. You wonder “How long can we keep doing this?” You replay moments. You look for signs. You’re afraid it’s over. But here’s the truth — your biggest problem isn’t her silence, aggravation, or other behaviors. It’s something […]
It’s late at night. You’re in the bedroom with your partner. You begin to share something about a challenge you’ve been having with her. You try to kindly express your point of view. You’ve even rehearsed it. But before you can even finish a few sentences, she interrupts. She talks over you as if your words don’t matter. Does your […]
You love your woman. You want to see her happy, light, and free. So when she tells you about her challenges… you do what seems logical. You jump in to fix it. “Here’s what you should do.” “Why don’t you just…” “Have you tried…?” But instead of being grateful, she seems… annoyed. Has this ever happened to you? When she […]
If you’re reading this, chances are something in your marriage feels off. Maybe it’s hard to name exactly what’s wrong. But you feel it. She says she’s unhappy. She says you’re the reason. That you’re not trying hard enough. Not present enough. Not enough, period. And maybe, deep down, a part of you believes her. You try harder. You work […]
You’re a rock star at work. You know how to produce. You get results. Maybe you’re a CEO. A tech startup founder. A high level programmer. A successful entrepreneur. You know how to figure things out. In fact, you thrive on it. Self-esteem professionally is abundant. And yet at home, it’s a different story. Your partner complains about you. You […]
I hear from a lot of men who say they want more sex in their marriage. They say, “I love my wife. She’s great but I don’t know if I can stay married to her.” And then they explain further… “We haven’t had sex in months. “She’s not even interested. “She’s frigid.” Do you struggle with sex in your relationship? […]
ve been sharing a bed with her for 20 years now,” James, a senior tech analyst and client, says to me. “Typically at night, my wife will sit in bed, reading her book and I’m just thinking, how can I connect with her? “Then I go to touch her, caress her arm. And then she’ll give me that look, like, […]
Marriage. Relationship. Coupledom. Commitment to one partner. That person you can rely on forever. Sounds beautiful upfront. And yet, if you’ve been in a long-term marriage or relationship, it’s not that simple. That one person is also the one who will trigger the sh*t out of you, causing you to feel trapped at times; in fact, that’s their job. The […]
My client Tim, a 46-year-old software CEO, is crushing it at work. But he feels trapped at home.“With all my success, I kind of feel entitled,” he says. “What do you mean?” I ask. “Well…” He looks down for a moment before looking up again. “I mean, you know why I’m here. My marriage is failing. And even though it’s […]
