Your wife hates her boss. Or maybe she’s struggling to lose weight. Or she’s upset at your kid’s teacher for how they were treated. She wants you to listen about what’s upsetting her. So you do it. You listen. Maybe you’ve heard that you’re supposed to just listen and not fix her problem. Maybe you’ve even watched the “Nail in […]
Tony, a high-level executive, comes to me trying to get a handle on his marriage. “Nothing I do ever seems like it’s enough for my wife. I’m not home enough, she says. I don’t spend enough time with the kids. I work my ass off and I show up as the best partner possible.” He pauses, sighs. “I’m at a loss. I […]
My client Robert tells me about how his wife dislikes him spending time with a close family member of his. This is someone super important to him, who he really wants to see more often. Does your partner ever object to who you spend time with? Robert goes on for a bit about the details of the situation. He’s a […]
Tom looks across the dinner table at his wife of twenty years. He’s eating the same breaded chicken and mashed potatoes that he’s eaten once a week for the last god knows how many years. Some words are exchanged. His wife does most of the talking. Tom notices how much his wife likes to talk. And how little he cares about what she has to […]
Life just happens. It often just passes us by. And in our busyness, be it work, marriage or raising kids, we often focus on what’s immediately in front of us, instead of what’s really important to us. As a result, we often lose our partner like a passing ship in the night. We don’t know when it happened but it […]
If 2021 were a guy in the bedroom, there’d be a lot of performance anxiety. His partner might say, “You better deliver ‘cause 2020’s been a shit show.” The pressure’s on for 2021 to deliver. Are you hoping for anything different in 2021 in your relationship? If so, what? “I just want some space!” many men are saying. After […]
Fear. It’s a bear in relationship. It can weigh a man down. A lot. Fear of not being enough for her. Fear of letting her down. Fear of not making her happy. I’ve seen all kinds of fears from guys during years of coaching men in their relationships. And the biggest thing I teach guys is this… It’s not her that […]
