First, if applicable, I invite you to depart from your politically correct, easily-offended mindset. Second, consider this non-PC phrase. One that men may use to describe a buddy’s romantic state in early relationship. Are you pussy whipped? With full respect to women, a woman’s ability to “pussy whip” a man is simultaneously her power to capture him. And while an […]
Twelve years ago, I was 44 years old, married 17 years, with a 15-year-old son. I’d been through many death and life cycles in my marriage. I was about to go through another one. My wife and I were in the kitchen, talking about what we should get my son for Christmas. She asked for my opinion. I brought my […]
You feel it. Something’s changed between you and her. She’s distant. Cold. You have a nagging sense that your relationship is not sustainable. You wonder “How long can we keep doing this?” You replay moments. You look for signs. You’re afraid it’s over. But here’s the truth — your biggest problem isn’t her silence, aggravation, or other behaviors. It’s something […]
It’s late at night. You’re in the bedroom with your partner. You begin to share something about a challenge you’ve been having with her. You try to kindly express your point of view. You’ve even rehearsed it. But before you can even finish a few sentences, she interrupts. She talks over you as if your words don’t matter. Does your […]
You love your woman. You want to see her happy, light, and free. So when she tells you about her challenges… you do what seems logical. You jump in to fix it. “Here’s what you should do.” “Why don’t you just…” “Have you tried…?” But instead of being grateful, she seems… annoyed. Has this ever happened to you? When she […]
Your wife is not happy. Her job is frustrating as heck. The kids aren’t listening to her. And you’re not enough for her. Just hearing all this makes my stomach cringe. To be married to a woman laden with problems is overwhelming for a guy. Often his natural response is to take on the burden of her unhappiness and compound […]
“I don’t put the dishes away. “I don’t spend enough time with the kids. “She doesn’t feel like I’m on her team. “It’s endless. Sometimes I wonder why she even stays married to me,” Jack says. Does your wife complain about you? “Why does she stay married to you? Have you asked her?” I say. Jack takes a deep breath. […]
“You don’t hear me.” “Why don’t you take me seriously?” “You don’t listen.” Does your wife say any of these things to you? It’s not uncommon for a guy to hear something similar from his wife. And there’s a good reason why. As men, we often struggle to keep up with our partner’s words. We feel like she’s verbose and […]
For many married men, an unconscious thing happens over the years. It happened to me in my marriage. You work hard in your career. You try to be good to your kids. But over time, you and your wife drift apart. And in time, you lose her. You essentially become roommates. Do you feel like roommates with your wife? No […]
“I want her to be happy. But man, she has no idea the value of a dollar. She blows ten bucks on gourmet cookies and doesn’t even eat them,” my client Todd said. Sounds like the words of a guy who is financially stressed. Anyone who’s been married a while can tell you that arguments about money and marriage go […]
