This was me once. It might be you. Your wife treats you like a second-class citizen. She belittles you. She acts as if you have little to offer her or your family. Does your wife ever belittle you? In response, you try to show up as your best. You’re a good guy who wants to contribute. And yet your efforts […]
Richard, a sales executive, speaks to me across the screen from New York. He’s exasperated. “She’s always freaking out. I’m tired of it. She’s fucking crazy.” Do you ever think your wife is crazy? Richard did. “I just want things to be OK, fluid. Every little thing becomes a big deal with her. Yesterday she freaked on me because I […]
“My marriage is falling apart,” Robert says. He pauses and sighs. “I fear divorce. I’m at a loss with what to do.” As a super-successful options trader, Robert is unaccustomed to not having the answers. “We’ve been married for years and somewhere, I don’t know exactly when, she shut down on me.” Has your wife shut down on you? Robert’s […]
When a man’s marriage tanks, he asks himself questions like… Can I continue to live like this? How can things change? What can I do about it? And in this place, your options can feel limited. You can easily feel trapped and resigned. Are you living out a life sentence in your marriage? If you’ve ever felt this way, it’s […]
Here’s a story about a guy, a CEO, who struggled to go after what he wanted with his wife. All that changed with one simple question, which I’ll offer to you momentarily. Up front, people tend to think CEO’s have it made. They’ve achieved success. They’ve made their money. But the reality is they’re humans, just like you and me. […]
Your blind spot. The place that you can’t see between your rearview and sideview mirror. You check it when you can. But every once in a while, you get lazy. You go to make that lane change, without checking your blind spot… And then BAM! You smash into something. And you realize, it was that damn blind spot. What the […]
Ever been in a fight with your wife and thought, Jeez, we’ve been having the same argument for 15 years? You didn’t do A, B, or C so many years ago, she says, then you didn’t do it again last week. You’re careless and all you think about is yourself and you’ll never change. Do you wonder, how did we […]
Here’s a crazy phenomenon I see with many married men. Are you this guy? A man walks into his kitchen to get a snack after working in his office. His wife walks into the kitchen. And bam, out of nowhere, she starts coming at him. “Hey,” she says, “you said you’d take care of the appointment for the kids. I never got […]
Your wife hates her boss. Or maybe she’s struggling to lose weight. Or she’s upset at your kid’s teacher for how they were treated. She wants you to listen about what’s upsetting her. So you do it. You listen. Maybe you’ve heard that you’re supposed to just listen and not fix her problem. Maybe you’ve even watched the “Nail in […]
My client Robert tells me about how his wife dislikes him spending time with a close family member of his. This is someone super important to him, who he really wants to see more often. Does your partner ever object to who you spend time with? Robert goes on for a bit about the details of the situation. He’s a […]
