I wake up in the middle of the night. It just happens. Often. I’m forty-nine. Seems to be part of my life at this point. My thoughts get churning. Sometimes it’s first thing in the morning. How will I keep a roof over my head over these next few years? Will I ever see her again? Will my business be […]
Pink Floyd once sang, The lunatic is in my head. For me lately, it’s been The Creep is on my back. Say what? Yes, the creep is on my back. But rewind first… Dude breaks artery in his leg, spends five weeks on his back on a couch, and then BAM! one day gets so angry, nearly violent, he channels all […]
So I had an injury… a major injury… near death experience… near amputation experience… I broke an artery in my leg in a freak accident. Recovery has been brutal. 35 days now and barely walking on crutches. Days and days on end of sitting on my couch. Weeks of barely having enough energy to even answer an email. Sure, I’ve […]
Truth: Only with our partner do our shadows appear most ferociously and triggers fly off the handle, often like a tornado that blindsides us. She said this… I said that and… hmmm… I don’t know what happened after that. Instead of checking out – a habit that descends over time into one day your partner being less interesting than your […]
Yesterday I stood in front of 15 people to speak about the unlived life of the couple. Something I had never done before. And yet something I knew deeply in my bones during my 25 year relationship with my beloved.
Mandela personified a man always with his eye on the next great hill to climb. He made it his modus operandi to look at what was confronting him – be it a jail cell, a revolution, a fragile nation – and to see the opportunity of what lay ahead of him.
I did the young love in the 20’s thing without kids. I did the mid 30’s with kid. And then I did the mid 40’s thing with older kid. And yes, all with the same person. In all phases of relationship, I know firsthand that an energized and…
One person talks for five minutes about his or her experience of his/her life right now. He or she talks about himself, owning his life, her experience, his feelings, without any blame toward the other, only presence of self. (And this is a practice that takes practice.)
It’s a powerful word. To be free or freed from a confinement, enslavement, or restriction. To enter a new and open landscape of possibilities and opportunities.
