My client Robert tells me about how his wife dislikes him spending time with a close family member of his. This is someone super important to him, who he really wants to see more often. Does your partner ever object to who you spend time with? Robert goes on for a bit about the details of the situation. He’s a […]
An aerospace engineer rocks it all day at work. But when he comes home, his wife makes it clear that he is not rocking it with her Before he even lays down his shoulder bag, she says, “Did you take care of the credit card issue?” F*#k, I spaced. What do I tell her? She sees the look in his […]
There’s something in your relationship. Something you avoid talking about with your partner. Something under the surface. A stress. A fear. A sense of something not right. Something not out in the open. Do you feel that something with your partner? Maybe you bury it down. Or you kick it down the road. Maybe it’s a rock you fear looking under. Or […]
“I can’t be me without her freaking out on me,” my client Tim said to me. Wow, I thought, that sounds tough and I felt like that once upon a time. Does your partner ever freak out on you? Maybe you said one thing and she misinterpreted it to mean something else. Or you tried to do something you thought was kind and then […]
“Too bad if you don’t like who I am!” a guy says. He walks out on his wife, thinking, F*#k her, I don’t need this shit anymore. Have you ever been pissed & walked out on your partner? I have. It feels like shit, especially when it happens often. And afterwards, maybe you’re thinking, Do I really have to go back home […]
3 guys in marriages that feel hopeless have a similar story. We never have sex. I can’t make her happy. It’s hopeless. You’ve heard it before. And yet… Are you living in what feels like a hopeless marriage? I was that guy. You know, feeling stuck in the marital dead zone. Maybe you’re like guy #3. Fine with the dead […]
Rick hadn’t been intimate with his wife for almost a year. They’d been married for fifteen. “Once in a blue moon, she’ll let me touch her breasts,” Rick said, as if reluctantly accepting a consolation prize. His options, in his view, were to stay in a sexless marriage or leave and risk losing his family. The double bind of Damned if you do, […]
A man is struggling in his marriage. But he doesn’t know that there are options for him to improve things. Options beyond HIDING OUT on his phone, ESCAPING through work, getting his physical needs met through porn, or RUNNING from reality into booze or pot. In truth, he feels crappy about acting like this. He hides his behaviors from his kids and wife, and at times, has them out […]
At least several times per month I hear a version of this from guys who contact me. “She’s always bossing me around. It’s constant,” Bill, a father of two, says. “She tells me, ‘You never listen to me. You didn’t do this. You didn’t do that. And what about that other thing I asked you to do?’” Do YOU EVER feel like you’re […]
THIS is the moment when it ALL changes. As in NOTHING will ever be the same again. EVER. The moment when he becomes the guy DONE thinking… I shoulda’ said that. If only I’d have done that. Next time I’m gonna tell her. Do you know that guy? Are You That Guy? Who isn’t? I was that guy. 7 years ago. And then it ALL changed. […]
