Twelve years ago, I was 44 years old, married 17 years, with a 15-year-old son. I’d been through many death and life cycles in my marriage. I was about to go through another one. My wife and I were in the kitchen, talking about what we should get my son for Christmas. She asked for my opinion. I brought my […]
You feel it. Something’s changed between you and her. She’s distant. Cold. You have a nagging sense that your relationship is not sustainable. You wonder “How long can we keep doing this?” You replay moments. You look for signs. You’re afraid it’s over. But here’s the truth — your biggest problem isn’t her silence, aggravation, or other behaviors. It’s something […]
It’s late at night. You’re in the bedroom with your partner. You begin to share something about a challenge you’ve been having with her. You try to kindly express your point of view. You’ve even rehearsed it. But before you can even finish a few sentences, she interrupts. She talks over you as if your words don’t matter. Does your […]
You love your woman. You want to see her happy, light, and free. So when she tells you about her challenges… you do what seems logical. You jump in to fix it. “Here’s what you should do.” “Why don’t you just…” “Have you tried…?” But instead of being grateful, she seems… annoyed. Has this ever happened to you? When she […]
Your wife is not happy. Her job is frustrating as heck. The kids aren’t listening to her. And you’re not enough for her. Just hearing all this makes my stomach cringe. To be married to a woman laden with problems is overwhelming for a guy. Often his natural response is to take on the burden of her unhappiness and compound […]
“I don’t put the dishes away. “I don’t spend enough time with the kids. “She doesn’t feel like I’m on her team. “It’s endless. Sometimes I wonder why she even stays married to me,” Jack says. Does your wife complain about you? “Why does she stay married to you? Have you asked her?” I say. Jack takes a deep breath. […]
For many married men, an unconscious thing happens over the years. It happened to me in my marriage. You work hard in your career. You try to be good to your kids. But over time, you and your wife drift apart. And in time, you lose her. You essentially become roommates. Do you feel like roommates with your wife? No […]
Sex. I talk a lot about it. In fact, it’s the biggest complaint men have about their marriages, that there’s not enough of it. Of course, this is because men are superficial and only care about the physical. And if you believe that, then you know nothing about most men and you’re being superficial. Time and again, I hear guys […]
I hear from a lot of men who say they want more sex in their marriage. They say, “I love my wife. She’s great but I don’t know if I can stay married to her.” And then they explain further… “We haven’t had sex in months. “She’s not even interested. “She’s frigid.” Do you struggle with sex in your relationship? […]
Fear. It shows up often in relationship. I hear a lot of men saying things like… I fear her anger. Or, I fear I’ll never be enough for her. I also hear, I fear she’ll never want to have sex again. I fear that if I try to talk about it, she’s gonna blow up at me. Do you have […]
