A man walks delicately around his partner. In any moment, she might reprimand him. It’s a pattern in their relationship. In reaction, he thinks, If only she’d give me some peace of mind. If only she’d stay out of my shit, not be after me so much, then I could rest, then I could be ok. He rolls out of bed in […]
It’s a question I get asked often. Twice, in fact, this past week on two different podcasts. When is it time to pack it in? Call it quits? Pull the divorce trigger? It’s a tough spot for a GOOD GUY. A guy who doesn’t want to be the asshole who blows up his marriage. Or fears being the jerk whose […]
“Too bad if you don’t like who I am!” a guy says. He walks out on his wife, thinking, F*#k her, I don’t need this shit anymore. Have you ever been pissed & walked out on your partner? I have. It feels like shit, especially when it happens often. And afterwards, maybe you’re thinking, Do I really have to go back home […]
3 guys in marriages that feel hopeless have a similar story. We never have sex. I can’t make her happy. It’s hopeless. You’ve heard it before. And yet… Are you living in what feels like a hopeless marriage? I was that guy. You know, feeling stuck in the marital dead zone. Maybe you’re like guy #3. Fine with the dead […]
A man is struggling in his marriage. But he doesn’t know that there are options for him to improve things. Options beyond HIDING OUT on his phone, ESCAPING through work, getting his physical needs met through porn, or RUNNING from reality into booze or pot. In truth, he feels crappy about acting like this. He hides his behaviors from his kids and wife, and at times, has them out […]
At least several times per month I hear a version of this from guys who contact me. “She’s always bossing me around. It’s constant,” Bill, a father of two, says. “She tells me, ‘You never listen to me. You didn’t do this. You didn’t do that. And what about that other thing I asked you to do?’” Do YOU EVER feel like you’re […]
Social distancing? Or sexual distancing? For many couples, it’s been one in the same. You might be in the same physical space. But are you in the same relational or sexual space? Are you seeing one another? Working as a team? Helping one another get through this COVID madness all the better for it? If you are, you’re likely having more […]
I keep hearing stories… … my kids are driving me nuts. … my wife is killing me. …. how am I gonna get through this Corona madness with my family? Social distancing has created relational claustrophobia. And with that, comes COVID-19 psychosis. Not actual psychosis, but feels like it. Clients are asking me how to deal. And more often than not, […]
My world is quiet. It’s early morning. The homes opposite me are blanketed in snow. I am homebound here in Colorado. Homebound, probably just like you. Who’d have ever thought it would all come to this? Sure, maybe years ago you made it through Y2k unscathed like me, with a few extra propane tanks in your garage. But now. Now […]
He can never make her happy. Nothing is ever enough. What can he do? And then one day she says she wants a divorce. He is stunned. More and more men are having this experience today. Women are initiating 70% and even more of divorces these days. Keith saw the writing on the wall in his marriage. He had hit a threshold. His […]
